MOMS ARE STRUGGLING TO BE THE PARENT THEY WANT TO BE RATHER THAN THE ONE THEY HAD
You are not alone. So many of us were raised with criticism, punishment, or taught that it wasn’t okay for us to have needs. We didn’t feel loved, seen, or valued under those systems. Now we’re raising kids and it’s tough to give them what we didn’t get from our parents.
Since you’re here, I’m thinking that you’re a mom who wants to be a secure adult for your children. You might worry that you’ll repeat the mistakes your parents made that hurt you. But if you didn’t receive support and encouragement and presence as a kid it’s hard to know how to provide it now. You’re probably doing some of it, because you feel like you can’t just not try… but I bet it’s exhausting, and you are struggling, and it feels like you’re giving more than you have.
You are a pattern breaker in your family line. You want to stop the patterns of harm and anchor your own family in patterns of care and regard. You feel in your heart that this is possible, even if you’re not quite sure how it will happen.
Yes, it’s possible to restore love and support and connection to your family line. And you’re not walking this path alone.
Start here with my free short video series, One Meaningful Act, which helps you to choose one thing you can do now to change family patterns.
LANDSCAPE OF MOTHERS CAN PROVIDE A MAP AND COMPASS
Landscape of Mothers is a wheel of archetypes – a Council of Mothers – located within you – that can guide you on your mothering journey. Archetypes provide us with the perspective needed for the journey ahead, and can be thought of as the compass that we use to find our direction.
Landscape of Mothers is based in nature practices that bring you home to yourself. Nature can provide the soothing, holding, and nervous system regulation that you may have missed as a child.
Building a connection with nature and learning to regulate the nervous system restores the ability to tap into your intuition and your inner guidance. It grows the Inner Mother who can now care for your Inner Child as well as your current/future offspring. Nature is the map, it locates us where we are. And from there we can see our strengths and struggles so that we can know where we might go.
I’M A MOM WHO HAD TO FIND HER OWN WAY TOO
I am Jill Doneen Clifton, pattern breaker and author of Landscape of Mothers. Landscape of Mothers is a map of the inner landscape I’ve visited on my journey to be the parent I wanted my children to have. I reclaimed these inner places and found the skills, perspectives, and hope that I needed in order to create a supportive and loving family culture. I did this work out of desperation. My kids were here in this world and I needed to figure things out NOW! I scrambled to read books, take classes, and figure it out. I was so focused on taking care of my kids, though, that I didn’t see how much I needed to reparent myself, to build and reclaim me, so that I could be there for them.
I hope that by sharing my map for venturing into this land of building a new family culture, that it will help you find your own way. When we embark on something we know is important, but we don’t know how it will happen, we can feel adrift, overwhelmed, frightened, and it’s so easy not to do it. But if we’re dedicated to breaking patterns of harm in our family, or in our own psyche, it helps to know the lay of the land.
HOW I CAN HELP
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Wounds around care in infancy and childhood can make us feel trapped in what is familiar. Cycles of criticism, isolation, and judgment damage the innate mechanisms that help us find our own way. Landscape of Mothers helps us restore and reclaim trust in our instincts, capabilities, and discernment.
How Landscape of Mothers helps:
- The use of archetypes gives us a chance to see a behavior or trait in a way we can relate to. Archetypes illuminate aspects of ourselves that we hadn’t considered before.
- In Landscape of Mother the archetypes are arranged in a wheel, which provides options for understanding and responding to our own particular struggles.
- Nature can provide soothing, a sense of belonging, and a foundation for tending to your childhood wounds. Once tended they will be less likely to hijack your ability to be the parent you want to be.
THE PATTERN BREAKERS I KNOW ARE PROBABLY YOUR KINDREDS TOO
My clients are both intensely dedicated and gently kindhearted. They feel deeply and know when things aren’t working, even if they aren’t always sure how to fix it. They are devoted to a world that values one another, though they’ve been hurt by the world we are living in. Most often they cheer for the underdog because they see the injustice of being undercut by the system.
Order the Landscape of Mothers Book here.
Contains full descriptions of the eight archetypes that make up the Landscape of Mothers as well as how to get the most out of working with them.
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